What Graduation Means

No Longer the Student
Do you remember when you graduated from Kindergarten? I do, I was Valedictorian of my private Kindergarten class at Mother Goose Pre-School! Just thinking back to that day brings such great memories of pride and adoration. I was at the top of my class. Okay, Okay, I know what you are saying. Is this chic really getting all sentimental over a Kindergarten graduation? Heck yeah, you would too if it was the last time you were at the TOP of your class! Well let me not lead you to believe I didn't graduate with honors from high school, college and my advanced degree, because I did (was that a horn I just heard)! TOOT TOOT!

Encouragement To Move Forward
Today's blog is just a quick bit of encouragement for you to move on and go beyond the graduation. I could sit here and reflect on graduation and being a student, or I can focus on making an impact in the world. It's time for you to stop being a student. It's time for you to go out into the world. You are no longer the student...it's time to take off the robe and expose yourself, your ideas, your business, and your purpose to a much greater audience.

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Is Your Brain on Overload With Ideas?

Have you ever had a brain-freeze? You know those freezes that you get when you eat something cold? For a moment, your brain goes into this frozen space and you squint at the pain. A few weeks ago, I had a brain freeze and it wasn't because I had eaten anything cold. It was because my brain had so many ideas that I couldn't take it anymore, I had to squint in pain.

I see a lot of my clients who have these same symptoms, where your brain feels like  it's on overload, so much so, that it is kind of painful. You have ideas coming like a dripping faucet that you just can't just shut off.  Well I have a solution for you my friend. It's called Evernote! It is like having a 2nd, 3r,d, and 4th brain! So if I knew about Evernote, why did experience a brain freeze, I had stopped using it.

So let this be a lesson to us all. If you have a tool that you were uber excited about when you first got it because you knew it would change your life,  you have to remember to USE the tool, otherwise it's not USEFUL.  I hope this has been helpful for you as much as it has been a  much-needed reminder for me. Go give Evernote a try and see if it doesn't stop the freeze or drip in your brain. Who knows, that idea may make you a ton of money so you can change the world! Stay Encouraged and if you like this post, please share it. You may save someone from idea overload agony :-)

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When Doubts Creep In

You are going full speed ahead with your dream. You are excited and can't nobody hold you back. Forget all the people who said I wouldn't make it. To all the people who  said I was average and wouldn't reach the top, look at me now, I am on my way up baby! So these are the thoughts in your head as you charge forward, then BAM!  A little thought creeps into your head...it says, "what do you think you are doing?" "You sure you can do this" "Will anybody read what you write?" "Who's going to buy your idea?"

Yep! Good old friend, Mr. Doubt-Fire blazes up on you like a heat in the night! So what do you do. Push past it of course. Riiiiiight. And in my southern drawl...how's that working for ya honey?

You see, I think doubt is bigger than we think. It's not just a thought that pops up in your head when you are headed for victory. It's an attack! Wait a minute Fon, who's attacking me? Well I call it the enemy. That's who is attacking you. I am a Christian and I know that God put us all here for a purpose. And like I have said before, it is not just to watch reality tv and suck up expensive air. Nope, we are all here in this world to accomplish a specific task. And the enemy, who decided to go against God, doesn't want to see that happen!

So now that you know Doubt is not just a mere thought in your head, it is  an all out war to keep you from moving forward and doing what you have been specifically designed to do, how do you combat this?

Glad you asked. I was hoping you were wondering. I didn't want to just tell you if you weren't curious, but I guess you are since you are still reading. The answer is you combat the enemy by continuing to press forward toward the mark, the goal, the dream that God gave you. For me, if I let doubt creep in too much, I do something radical. Like a basketball player, I fake'em out. You think I am going left and I go right and do a spin move on your tale. Either way, I am still going to make this basket! And when I faithfully let the ball release my hands...SWOOSH!  In there baby!

I know I went straight basketball terminology on yall, but the point is this...don't ever stop because you start doubting. Matter of the fact, the more the doubts creep in, the more aggressive you need to be.  If the direction you are going in is counter-productive to your purpose, it will be revealed. Because guess what, God don't bless no mess. So as long as you can  keep moving forward...be like Nike and Just Do IT! Doubts be darned!

Coach Fon

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What Writing 60K Words Taught Me

I remember it like it was yesterday. I was working as an intern reporter in Cleveland, Ohio. Everyday after work, I would throw myself into a book. I was miles away from home (Mississippi) and books were my way to relax and let go of all things responsible. The only responsible thing I had to do was stay away to finish the book (and on some days, that's what the harder than chasing a news story).

After completing one of the novels, one day I said to myself, "man, I can do this; I can write a book" And there is was, I had just created a vision of myself being an author. This was 1998. My first book was published in 2007. Did it take me that long to write it? Nope. Only took about 4 months really. And I am not talking about an e-book. I am talking about a 60,000 plus word manuscript! Notice when the vision came to me, and when I actually finished the goal. That's 9 years of wanting to accomplish this goal.

Today I want to encourage you by sharing three tips that writing a novel taught me, and I am sure you would be able to use these tips for whatever you have been "taking a long time to produce."

Tip 1 - Just because you say you can do something, doesn't mean you will do it. You must have the right motivations behind any dream or goal to give it the momentum that will see it through to the end.

Tip 2 - Consistency is golden. When I finally sat my little booty down and got serious about writing my book, it was done in about 4 months! And this was while I was working a full-time job. When you consistently put in the work, it will pay off. Do something toward your dream everyday. Even if it's small. If you do something small consistently, eventually it will get BIG.

Tip 3 - Stop reading other people's books or watching other people succeed while you tell yourself it's okay to be inspired. Inspire yourself by doing the work that it takes to reach your dream. I was so guilty of this. I would even tell myself that I am doing "research" when I read other people's work. It was just a pitiful excuse.

BONUS TIP - The one major thing that helped me write 60,000 plus words, not once but twice (yep I wrote two novels, no one-hit wonder biz going on here!) was when someone told me..."Fon, you know someone is waiting on you to finish that book." Now mind you this person wasn't talking about themselves or anyone in particular, but my book did have a target audience and they were waiting. That level of accountability to my purpose really propelled me forward.

What are you dreaming about day after day? What are you doing in your free time or made-up free time? Most likely the very thing you are doing, is what you should be doing for yourself. Are you reading everybody else blog (thanks for reading this one by the way), but are you reading blogs when your task is to write one? Are you looking at programs other business owners have created instead of sitting down and creating your own? Are you being a lurker on facebook or Pinterest or whatever social medium is your vice, when you should be marketing your business?

Let today be the day you get moving! If you feel like you are stuck like chuck and need a little help getting past GO, sign up for my list below or use the contact page. One of the things I love doing, is getting people moving toward their purpose. So get moving and do something today.

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How to Cure Perfectionist Disease

Did I dot that "i"? Are all my "t's" crossed? Is everything perfect before I move forward?
Does this sound like you? Are you a perfectionist? Are you waiting for the perfect set of circumstances to discover your passion? Are you waiting for the perfect time to do this or that? Is your purpose being held back because you are waiting for it to perfectly come to you in a nicely wrapped box?

Here's the truth...being a perfectionist holds you back! Yep, I said it. Whew, my perfectionist gladiator was straight trying to rise up just now and I had to tell her to back off, I am in forward motion right now.

Here's the deal, whether you're trying to figure out your passion, figure out what business to start, figure out what to wear, or just figure out anything, be very aware of the spirit of perfection. It totally seeks to keep you stuck and indecisive. So here's what I tell myself when that PG (perfetionist gladiator) tries to rise up. "It may not be perfect, but it definitely ain't paralyzing me!"

I am all about keeping it moving. I consider myself a "Recovering Perfectionist" because I am cured (until my next project comes along) and she tries to rise up and infect me and keep me stagnant. Don't let perfectionism hold you hostage. Especially if you've got a message and purpose to fulfill (which we all do...hello...we are not just here to suck up air in this world you know).

Let's declare war against the Perfectionist Gladiator. Here's your armour that will drop perfection right to it's knees....keep moving and do it anyway, even if it's not perfect. Anytime that perfection holds you back from moving forward...drop kick it baby! Straight throw some forward action on it and watch it shrivel up.

Join the Recovering Perfectionist Movement Today! Sign up for my email list below and let''s fight this together! Recovering Perfectionist on three....1-2-3...RECOVERING PERFECTIONISTS.

Stay Enouraged and Keep Moving Forward...somebody waiting on you to stop being perfect, and do what you were meant to be doing in this world.

Coach Fon

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A Life Coach’s Confession

Have you ever felt like a total fraud? I mean you just went through life pretending to be someone you were not. Whether it was pretending to like to wear heels when you just wanted to wear tennis shoes all day (not confessing that...not today anyway). Or you wanted to make money so you pretended to really like your job or you choose the career that had the most money potential, even though it sucked your soul totally dry. Do you know what I am talking about?

Today I want to make a confession. I realized that even me, Coach Fon, has been partaking in the fraudulent lifestyle. Yep, I admit it. I tried to pretend like I was coaching full time because I thought it would turn clients off if they knew I had a full time corporate job. Even though my job never got in the way of my ability to coach their socks off. But for some reason, I wasn't being true to myself (or to them for that matter). I didn't lie. I just didn't tell the whole truth (you do know that's pretty much the same thing as lying right?).

Why did I do this? A few simple reasons. I didn't want people to judge me or think I couldn't help them because I wasn't doing my business full-time. I also wanted to present this BIG front like I had my business together. Well in the words of poet Langston Hughes, life for me ain't been no crystal stair. Becoming a coach has been the best thing that has ever happened to me because I know without a shadow of a doubt that my purpose is to encourage others to be who God called them to be. I do that through my coaching tools, but I mainly do it by just being me. I love helping people figure out what their soul craves. I love helping people get clarity on their next move. I love helping you figure out what your passion is and helping you see clearly how you can pursue it...even while you are still working!

So there I have said it. I am a coach who is fully committed to helping you spread your wings, but I do have a full time job. And to be honest, my client is the woman who has a corporate job too but feels like she is being called to do more, make a bigger impact in her world., if she could only take the time to figure out what she wants to do. I help corporate women who have decided to do more than climb the corporate ladder figure out their passion and move in the direction of their bigger calling.

If this is you, join me on this journey where the path has curves, bumps, and unexpected turns, but in the end, it's all worth it to be who you truly are. Are you ready to be who you are? Are you ready to live a life of purpose?

Leave me a comment below and tell me where in your life do you feel like a fraud. Confessing is the first step to cleansing your soul.

Be Encouraged, Coach Fon
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Figuring Out What To Do Next

Not knowing what to do next is the most annoying feeling. Well, not as annoying as someone running their nails across a chalk board (ewwww). But figuring out what to do next can often times feel like torture. Should I move to a new job. Should I stay at this one. Should I quit. Should I do this. Should I do that.  Hmmm. If you have ever been in that place of "trying to figure out what to do next" then this blog post is just for you. I am going to share one thought with you today that has helped me tremendously in my life and business. I have been exactly where you are and I know what it feels like to keep thinking about it over and over and over and over and over and over and over (you get the point). Wait, one more...OVER again. One of my mentors, Marie Forleo, said it best when she said these six important words:

"Clarity Comes From Engagement, NOT Thought!"

  Sometimes simply doing what you are thinking about will give you more clarity than just constantly thinking about it. The more you sit there and think, the less time you have to actually DO. When it comes to figuring out what to do next, my advice is simply to do something, anything. Today, I encourage you to choose. First  you choose, then you do, and afterwards, you find yourself much closer to figuring it out.

Action Steps:

Leave a comment below and tell me what you plan to DO today. Enjoyed this post? Please share it with your friends and family.    

Be Encouraged,

Coach Fon                

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